So often I hear others making comments about the insignificance of their words. There has been this tendency to flex our first amendment right to freedom of speech, but without restraint or concern for the well-being of ourselves and others. What is widely misunderstood is that the more a person makes a specific set of statements, whether consciously or unconsciously, the more reinforced those patterns of thought will become. Many times we ignore or are unaware of how these factors influence our beliefs and behaviors. What is not being spoken enough is that there can be tragic consequences when a person does not demonstrate self-control over their thoughts and outward expression via speech. Controlling one's thoughts takes a large amount of discipline and understanding. Taking the time to contemplate your thoughts daily through self-reflection is essential for becoming more self-aware. Furthermore, taking the time to reflect with a trusted loved one or professional counselor allows for contrast to be established in one's thinking, which might in turn allow for a person to develop a less self-focused perspective. Self-reflection can be an incredibly strenuous task, but has positive long-term effects over a lifespan. Please take the time to check out this informative article about the influential nature of self-talk.